My husband frequently brings up the rights of a husband over his wife, claiming that I am always at fault and fall short in fulfilling his rights. This puts me under a lot of psychological pressure, and I do not know how to please him. What is the ruling on such behavior?

The legal rulings related to marital life should not be approached in a way that encourages each spouse to consult religious texts to define their rights and duties in a manner that always puts themselves in the right and the other in the wrong. Doing so turns religion into a tool for pressuring the other and imposing their will without fulfilling their own obligations.

Marital life is founded on domestic harmony, mercy, affection, and mutual consideration of each other’s feelings, rather than on focusing solely on their rights. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that a wife should be mindful of Allah with regard to her husband and know that attentive, caring, and respectful treatment of him, along with exercising patience, is one of the paths to Paradise. Likewise, the husband must take into consideration his wife’s weakness and the hardship she endures in managing the household and caring for the children throughout the day. He must also be merciful to her and not burden her with more than she can bear. These mutual, sincere feelings enable spouses to fulfill their duties and achieve what Allah Almighty has intended for them. Marital rights should not be treated like legal claims to be enforced; Allah Almighty says,
“Allah grants wisdom to whom He wills, and whoever is granted wisdom has certainly been given much good” (Quran, 2:269).

And Allah Almighty knows best.